Welcome to Jewelry By Dee-Wick.

I hope you find something that you find of interest. I wanted my blog to reflect more than just jewelry, but some issues and ideas for other women.


This is my first blog and I am learning as I go.
I will be posting some of my jewelry items that can be found on my Etsy store @ lightworks.etsy.com

I am hoping to connect with some great people and make some new friends, so please feel free to leave your comments.

SHOP ETSY!!

Saturday, November 27, 2010

From my Personal Experience!

I would love to shout this from the roof tops for all women!

All around me I see women, of all ages staying in a marriage or relationship with Men who are unkind, controlling, leave you neglected, cruel, doesn't want you to have a life. I have one important thing to say to you. GET OUT! Go back to school, get a job, do what ever you have to too build a life, your life, not a by product of what he thinks you should be. Love is not a ball and chain!

Don't listen to your Mother, Sister, Aunt's, friends or any one else who tells you different. ANY WOMAN WHO TELLS YOU TO STAY, DOES NOT HAVE YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART. I don't care who they are! If you have children then you really need to get out. You are not doing them any justice by staying. If you have a daughter, you are teaching them that they are not worth having a man who will be good to them. If you have a Son, you are teaching them that is ok to treat woman badly.

This may sound harsh, but your life and your free will was giving to you for you! When you give it away, and then find yourself unhappy, and then you want God to make it better. You ask him to change the person you have given all you power away to. You pray and ask God to show them the light, turn them into the kind of person that will be kind and caring. GET REAL! I truly do believe that God is saying " Look, I gave you life, I gave the free will, and a brain. Start using it. You choose to give it away and only you can take it back."

It amazes me that women are still this dumb. It is time to wake up, and grow up. Stop selling out.
Stop teaching your beloved Daughters to put up with abuse. Teach them to stand on there own two feet, be proud. Don't settle for less. Please help break the cycle of abuse. Not LETTING you work is abuse, Not LETTING you drive a car is abuse. Not giving you any money is abuse. Not LETTING you have any friends is abuse. I could go on and on.

Who ever is reading this, I love you. Please, if you have a man in you life is abusive, please love yourself enough to find your self, find your freedom.

Rev. Deyani Wolf

Friday, August 27, 2010

HAVE WE AS WOMEN REALLY ABTAINED EQUAL RIGHT?

I have been going through a divorce and I really feel the need to share some insight with you.
If you have not experienced dealing with our legal system pertaining to divorce lately I think most would be very dismayed with the attitude of the legal system concerning women. I cannot tell you what year the laws were changed in most states, but it is of no benefit to women. Not being able to sue for divorce any longer only benefits the courts. It is but another part of our system that is run and controlled by men, and as women we are not treated fairly.

If you were a stay at home wife, you will suffer the most. Even after a long term marriage. In asking for any alimony you are made to feel as if you are a second class citizen asking for a hand out. It no longer matter if for the past 10 years, your husband has lived in the bars, did drugs, cheated on you, or any other undesirable behavior. The term " hard working man" really carries a lot of weight with the rest the rest of the men within the legal system. All the work the wife did within the home carries NO VALUE WHAT SO EVER! Mind you, they won't and can't come right out and say that, but believe me they are sure thinking it. And even if you are awarded a settlement and alimony you may not get it. Heaven help you if your ex moves out of state. Ad it stand now, if he leaves the state and does not pay, being in contempt of court is not on a nation wide data base system. In order for a bench warrant to be put into force, you must now go through the legal system of what ever state he now resides in. This is very costly, and most women can not afford any more attorney fees.

If you are considering filling for a divorce, these are a few thing to before hand.

1. Don't believe every thing the lawyer tells you. He or she will tell you just want you want to hear to your money.

2. You need to let them know up front you will not allow your husband's attorney to get by with asking for any delay in any hearing or mediation. " TO BAD IF HE HAS TO LOOSE A DAY'S WORK" If you are going to need alimony to get by, this will only cause a big delay in getting it.

3. If you have a mediation, remember that less is more. Don't give any more information than is needed because it may be used against you at a later date.

4. And the big one is, if you are asked how long ago did you know that the marriage was broken, be careful of your answer. If you say something like 5 year they will try and deduct the length of time of your marriage. This can effect the amount of your alimony in a big way.

5. Keep in mind even if you have a women lawyer she still works within the same legal system that is run by men.

The sad thing is, if you are too soft with your lawyer they will not take you seriously, and if you are too aggressive you are looked at as a bitch. You can't win for loosing.

Monday, February 1, 2010

What you will need at home after you hip replacement.

Before my surgery I had spent a lot of time on line looking for information about what to expect after total hip replacement surgery. What I now know is that most of what I had read is just wrong. Do I decided to share from my own experience in hopes that it may help some one else be better prepared.

The things you will need to have at home after your surgery.

1. More than one grabber. You will need at least three. Why so many? Because before it is all said and done, at least two of them will break.

2. You will want two walkers, one with wheels and a food tray, and one without wheels. If you have a shower large enough, you really should take the walker with no wheels in with you.

3. Take something to the hospital with you long enough to reah your legs. MORPHINE MAKES YOUR SHIN ITCH.

4. Buy some hair remover, you will not be able to shave your legs.

5. Buy a lot of your supper favorites foods. Your apatite will suffer from all the pain pills. ( nothing like, crackers. For some reason, your skin and mouth will be really dry, and you will not want to eat dry food.

6. Your will need a lift seat for your potty. One with arm is great. If there is a portable potty in your room at the hospital and allow you to take it home, take it! You may find it handy to have near where you are sleeping. You will be slow moving for a long time. If you are any thing like me, I may not make it in time on a good day!

7. Buy any tool you can find to help you with putting on your shoes and socks.

8. Buy a long handled foot or back brush, you will need to wash your feet. Reaching your feet will be a thing of the past for awhile and I found this to be one of the biggest point of anger.

9. Invest in a lest 4 freezer pack so you can use them as ice packs for pain. Your will be glad you have them.

Just some point of interest,

10. If you are having the right hip done, you may want to take your time getting back to driving. I waited for 5 weeks. Start with very short trips until you know how you feel. I could not wear my seat belt for a long time.

11. You will have to take a large amount of antibiotics before getting any dental work done for the rest of your life

12. I had bought myself some loose fitting shorts before the surgery and I am really glad I did. It was so much easier.

If you have any other things you might want to know you can e mail me at
lifechoices1@cfl.rr.com

Sunday, July 5, 2009

DEDICATION


I am dedicating this blog to my best friend and soul sister, Mia Lon Fantozz. She passed away from cancer in 2000, however she is still with me in spirit and heart.
I want to share some poetry that she wrote and was printed in The National Library of Poetry and won the Editor's choice award for outstanding achievement in poetry in 1997.

THE TRUE LIGHT

They said to their teacher, tell us about light.
Help us to see it in everything.
He pointed to the sky above and said.
The sun is the main light from where all things come.
With the sun there is day, warmth and energy.
For all living things to grow easily.
For the light in the night there's the moon in the sky.
Clocking our daily paths to our Ascension, immortal time.
For extra elegant brilliance, he added the stars.
Along with the planets from Pluto and Mars.
If this was not enough, He promised us hope in the rainbow above.
And wrapped this all up by calling it the Universe of Love.
He turned his head, looked to the ground and smiled.
At all the radiance in the nature growing for miles.
His eyes beheld the love of the animals, the color of flowers.
The flowing of the rivers, this land which is ours.
All of this is beauty of various lights to behold.
But, the true light is within ourselves: It's called the soul.

By Mia Lon D. Fantozz
Never to be forgotten!


Saturday, July 4, 2009

PONDERINGS-FOOD FOR THOUGHT!

If you are like me, I have some silly or strange little questions or thoughts that will run through my mind from time to time.Most of them we don't give them much notice and just let them float on by. Maybe some of them are more on a serious side and you might just want to share them.I decided it might be fun to start writing them down. Making an ongoing segment adding to the list, and for my readers to send me their funny or strange little thoughts, and maybe add them to our list. So, keep checking in for more update!!

1. If men only use only one side of their brains, then why do they rule the world?

2. Do bugs know that they freak most of us out? Do they get a kick out of us scramming, recoiling, and chasing them with little hope of catching them?

3. Why does out local and state government push so hard to pass a law that we can get a ticket for not wearing a seat belt and they won't give a ticket to the jerk that will not us a turn signal before they cut you off? maybe if they worked harder to give out tickets to people who drive like they don't have a brain in there heads, and have little or now consideration for any one else, we wouldn't need a law to make us all wear seat belts.

4. Wouldn't you love to be a fly one the wall inside of DR. Phil's house to see what REALLY goes on in their marriage?

5. Don't you think that is is time that along with raising the consciousness about polluting our environment with toxins, we also need to understand how we pollute our world with our toxic thought of HATE, WAR, SELFISHNESS?

Friday, March 27, 2009

The Best Brownie's Ever !

Gee, it has been almost 20 years sense I found a old Watkins cook book that someone had thrown out. I had never heard of Watkins so I decided to do some research on the Co. I discovered that my old cook book was really old. It was written not long after ovens had thermometers, as they were called back then. My old cook book has been through a house fire and moving across the United States more times than I can remember. It is in pretty bad shape, but I would never part with it.

But within it's wisdom, there is the most wonderful brownies I have ever made, and everyone loves them. So I decided to share this bit of craft, this old recipe shared by some women, most likely long gone from this world by now. May her talent live on as you share these with your family.

Chocolate Brownies

1/2 cup melted butter
1 cup sugar
2 eggs
1 teaspoon baking powder
7 Tablespoons of Cocoa
1 cup of Walnuts
1 teaspoon of vanilla
pinch of salt

Beat eggs, add butter and slowly add sugar. Sift flour then measure and add.
Add vanilla and then add cocoa, stirring in a little at a time. Add your walnuts.
Grease pan and lightly flower. Bake in an moderate oven ( 350 ) for 30 minutes.
NOTE; I find that they need a little more time to bake. More like 40 minutes.
Enjoy!

Sunday, February 1, 2009

Thursday, January 29, 2009

THE INDIAN TEN COMMANDMENTS

Treat the earth and all that dwell thereon with respect.

Remain close to the Great Spirit.

Show great respect for your fellow beings.

Work together for the benefit of all mankind.

Give assistance and kindness wherever needed.

Do what you know to be right.

Look after the well-being of mind and body.

Dedicate a share of your efforts to greater good.

Be truthful and honest at all times.

Take full responsibility for your actions.

Thursday, January 22, 2009

RED FLAGS TO HELP YOUR DETECT IF THE MAN IN YOUR LIFE MIGHT BE AN ABUSER!

I am a survivor of several abusive relationships. What I have learned is that danger signs or "red flags" can be and are often subtle and easily over looked. I decided to put together a list of red flags to help women detect a possible abusive man. I have tried to keep the list short. If you detect two or more of these personality traits, you MAY have a man with control issues and the potential for an abusive relationship.

But first I ask you to ask yourself what you would consider abuse? This is very important because you have to understand that a man does not have to strike you for him to be abusive. I know that over the years our awareness of this issue has come a long way, but I still hear women say," well he doesn't hit me".There are still women out there who need to change their definition of abuse. Men who always need to be in control are abusive,and it may never escalate to a physical abuse. however I believe the potential is always there. You have to understand that a person who has an abscission with controlling another is not mentally or emotionally healthy and you can not fix them!

This type of man is most often very, very, charming. He has the ability to hide his need for control early in the relationship. He does not want to loose what he hopes to possess.

1. Is he over the top, sickening nice to your family and friends? This is one of the most often missed and one of the most important signs. He is building his defense. So is later on you decide to confide in your friends they will find it hard to believe you. You may here them say something like,"he is always so very nice and respectful".

2. Is he jealous of the time you spend with your friends and family?
Jealousy will ALWAYS = ANGER.

3. Does he call you two, three, or four times a day wondering what you are doing?

4. Does he call other women names? Such as calling them a "bitch", or put them down? If so, they will most often be strong women, in position of status or power. Women whom other women will admire for their success and strength. They may accuse them of being gay, or that they hate men, or use the term "ball buster".

5. Does he want to know where you all the time? Do you find yourself having to explain why you were late getting home from work?

6. If he gets mad is it always the fault of someone else? This is important because someone who has anger issues will most often never take responsibility for it. It is always the other persons fault because of something they have done or said.

7. Does he call you names? Does he imply that you are stupid?

8. What is his fathers feeling about women. If his father has anger issues toward women it is a good chance his son or son's will as well.

9. Does he seem to have a need to control the money? Does he want all the bills in his name alone?

10. Does he monitor your mail, your computer, your e mail, you phone calls?

When you enter into a relationship with a abusive man, over time your life becomes his. You will find that he has manipulated you life and money into his control. It is a slow process and a slow death. Your life and interest begin to fade. You will find your self always thinking about what will piss him off and how to avoid doing so. You wake up one day and realize that you have not friends, you have no other couples to do any thing with.

Many abusive men will want their wives to not work, but then be angry at you if there are money problems. He may discourage you from going back to school, trying to better yourself in any way. After all, a better education = more money = more freedom = more control over your own life. To a abusive and controlling man this is his biggest fear and threat.

What puts you in danger is control = resentment = anger = hate
A person will always end up hating the person they are trying to control. How can you enjoy your life when you have another person that you have to watch and control all the time. You can't leave them alone for a min, they might do something you don't want them to do. YES IT IS INSANE!

My personal advice for all women:

Take the time to make a list of your life goals and the things you love to do.What part of your life really reflects who you are and are important to you. Make a list of things you love to do. Whats makes you happy>
Keep this list where you can see it every day. If your relationship is whipping out your list, you have a problem and it is time to get out.

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Living with a Jewelry Makers Duality.

I have found myself dealing with a major duality for the past six months or so.

For many years now, I have been very aware and dismayed about the whiplash of mining for gems across the glob. We are raping our planet, killing others, all for those beautiful pieces of our mother earth. So there is my duality.

As a jewelry designer who loves, uses and buys gem stones, am I contributing to this insanity? As much as I hate to admit it I think the answer is yes. And thus how do I justify making and selling jewelry using natural gem stones? Is there really any way to justify this? Should I stop buying and selling gem stones and start making jewelry with glass beads? Now that this has been put in front of me to take a look at, it is now for me to come to terms with.

I can't help but wonder if this has crossed the minds of any other jewelry designers? And if so, how do they deal with it.

I personally do believe that this is a major choice point for me. I have no answers at this point in time but I know that I will have to come to a place where I can live with it or just not deal in the natural gems anymore.

If any other jewelry designers out there happen upon this post, I would love to read your thought and feeling on this matter.